One thing that probably happens a lot (gosh it just be me!!) :-

Someone:  I tried to reach you all day yesterday
You:  Hey, i am so sorry, i was stuck with some stupid work
Someone:  Oh, thats ok (Not ok, actually, he/she would be screwing your head figuring out ways he can get back at you for the same).

You:  Well, it was very late by the time i got time to call you.
Someone:  Oh thas ok, i just called casually (even though it was important for him/her)

Someone:  (thinking that he should go ahead and say that “you could have just left a message or something”) but drops the idea.
You:  Who is currently with a date, says that he will call him

Here, above, even though the conversation is harmless, but that is where we are killing foreign lands. These are the “harmless” lies which we seem to have habituated( i don’t want to sound dramatic and tautological(far away), trying to sound dramatic and make a issue out of nothing here), it happens to everybody in a non-perfect world and then we understand the worlds’ ways. In that respect we are talking about Non-Technical lies, so to speak.

Another scenario, where a doctor lies to a patient about patients illness. He may lie saying:-

- “Its ok, its not that bad, i think you can make it through”.
- Hides the patients disease.
- Tries placebo, cures a patient without any naturally existing cure.

So this one becomes a Technical lie, if we conduct a poll– I’m sure the second scenario would fall under the banner- Technical lies- with flying colors. Probably the doctor would be ranted for his negligence and empirical ways of doctoring, News channels would get feeds, not necessarily to discuss the implications of what the doctor did, but just for the sake of covering an apparently non-ethical deed.

There are no set standards for what we can and what we cannot lie about. It is “relative”, but aren’t we overlooking some basic procedure which can be applied when it comes to judging lies? Can’t we solve some basic moral/ethical and relationship issues by forming a standard which talks about “Technical Lies” and “Non-Technical lies”.

Another very common scenario:-

You are away from your girlFriend/Boyfriend, you were expecting a call from him/her because you’re missing him/her. You wait, think that i shouldn’t be the first one to call, shouldn’t seem that i can’t live with him/her, then you can’t take it anymore, you decide to call, you hear him/her say that he/she was thinking about you all day, and was just about to call, may be true, but we all know what is the truth most of the times.

It doesn’t do any harm, I am even for all these lies– they help in maintaining homeostasis, although i do twitch a little when people have their own internal representations of lies. When we happen to do something, the intentions– internal representations, rarely come into play during the communication. What we are rather working out (instead of making distinctions between TL’s and NTL’s) is a co-operative strategy to find out faults in each other and trying cancel out lies with lies.

We lie mostly to get make the situation simpler, untangling ourselves from something that may get us into a tricky situation. But we no longer lie to “hide the truth” — Like we used to lie about our grades to our parents as children, we knew that it was crime to do so, but we did it just to hide the truth. But now, we don’t often think we are committing a ethical mistake by lying, neither our purpose of lying in most cases is to hide the truth, it just a get-away kind of tool. In a way we still hide the truth, but it ain’t a primary motive, like we used to do as kids, or like government lies about all sorts of things.

I think this generation is dealing with lies in a better way, but we are caught in different kind of lies–Lying to Self, this time it’s a dangerous thing that we’ll have to deal with. The thing with this thing is that we don’t know that we are doing this thing. Would you believe that every Love-trouble is because of lying, whatever kind of lie it may be, i am just fascinated by lies, If love makes the world go around, lies play a major role, lie-management–Another Future Opt, perhaps. More on this over-worn topic later– Not lying!!