If one looks at Nihilism or Buddhism at surface levels, we will be surprised at first that finally somebody understands us, and then we will think how such acclaimed philosophies are– “devil-may-care”. But let’s assume that we are doing something significant by living and world does need a presence of people like “us and them” ; Nihilists do write books about nihilism even though it’s admitted pointlessness.
We concoct dreams and desires, but lot of times, the dreams and desires loose their “fascination-streets” too early and we leave them alone in search of another dream which might take us to the “other-side”. I have a proposed solution—something which will allow us to smirk in the vicious circle of dreams and desires.
“Hold on to something about which nobody will ever know”. Even after you have internally decided to hold on to something else, you are not allowed to talk about it, just like one doesn’t mention about farting during sex. This is an un-validated theory, since I can’t do a public survey on this, but I have been doing this for a year, and I can categorically say that “it works”.
So what happens? I have been trying to speculate about it for a week now and for a more conscious effort to find out why “keeping-it-secret” works, from my side, I decided that I will write a bit about it and also share it. I realized that it there wasn’t anything secret about keeping-it-secret. I think we are at are “honesty-peaks” when we are alone, when we talk to oneself. These honest-pits are not known to anybody. I am assuming there are things which we usually don’t tell anybody. But we rarely do things which we enjoy or like doing, without telling it to anybody.
We have been taught that we should share happy moments, happiness multiplies, and I guess it is true to a certain extent. But the same “shared-happiness” when lost, seems to give us multiple “sorrows”, doesn’t it happen all the time. It’s as if we would be better off if people are not associated with it. That is the very reason I think we should do something which people don’t know about. How is another question and has to be dealt individually.
The KIS will be might not be something that you really like at the beginning. But, obviously, you will shift from one KIS thing to another. KIS things will involve almost zero self-deception if you haven’t perfected the art. In the process there is nothing to prove (an evil which takes out fizz out of the drink); it’s even not about competing with the self. It will just be something you will attend to frequently.
Most of the cognitive biases are born inside, but receive inputs from outside. KIS is shielded from biases, to a large extent, except that we are very biased about keeping KIS as secret.
You know what I am doing right now, I mean…forget it.
